Lao Chen is 45 years old. He has been married to his wife Aling (a pseudonym) for more than a decade. His son has also been admitted to a key middle school, and his small days are quite prosperous. At the end of last year, Lao Chen’s father fell awkwardly in the street. He found out that there were many problems in his body. In order to take care of the elderly, Lao Chen consulted with Ah Ling and received her second wife from home.

After the parents moved in, the husband and wife both got along well. Unexpectedly, some time ago, Lao Chen Ma was suddenly interested in the elderly health care products on the streets. He spent a lot of money in his home and moved various products at home, regardless of the dissuasions of others. A Ling was angry, and she was not allowed to give her parents “filial piety”, causing contradiction between mother and father. On Wednesday, Lao Chen complained to the marriage hotline and said that she has now become a "sandwich person" and I do not know what to do.

Mom's shot "brilliant" keen to buy "health products"

Lao Chen’s husband and wife earned good income. Lao Chen’s parents lived with their daughters in their hometown all the year round. The two pensions and the cherishing of their children are very moist. At the end of last year, two elderly people came to live in Fuzhou. Lao Chen’s life is frugal, and in addition to taking care of her husband’s wife, she also rushes to help Elaine to do housework. When the parents and the younger sister originally lived, they gave a “filial piety fee” of 1,000 yuan per month. After the parents moved in, they returned three or five hundred yuan of pocket money each month. This made Lao Chen's parents very happy. He often praised his relatives and friends for filial piety.

In the first few months, it was raining in Fuzhou. Lao Chen’s legs and joints were sore and painful. Lao Chen’s mother asked for medical advice. Once shopping, someone pulled Lao Chen Ma to listen to an elderly care lecture. The speaker recommended a high-tech elderly health care product. Lao Chen Ma's product has the "resistance to rheumatism" and immediately registered for purchase. The next day, Lao Chen Ma took 1,000 yuan in the past and bought 3 boxes of health care products. The other party took her to buy another health care product, and said there was a discount. Lao Chen Ma listened and felt that these products were good for his wife’s body and they bought them all.

Lao and Chen’s couple saw that Ma’am had spent thousands of yuan on moving the health care products in half the room. After repeated questioning, Lao Chen’s mother was very proud and said that these were high-tech products. Lao Chen’s couple immediately surfed the Internet to confirm that these were no-name health foods. Many people had complained that they were deceived. Lao Chen is not happy. She feels that her son and daughter are distressed and do not feel bad about the elderly.

Since then, Lao Chen Ma’s “brilliant” reputation, many sales calls directly to the home, the old ladies of the district are also envious of Lao Chen Ma to understand “health care”, which let the old people enjoy it, continue to buy “ High-tech health products." Lao Chen did not say anything, Aling could be mad, and felt that her mother-in-law was making money.

The wife refused to give "filial piety fees" and madly bought new clothes.

Since Lao Chen's fascination with buying health products, A Ling’s attitude toward her mother has also changed. Whenever her mother refuses to dump the leftovers, she must be given the opportunity to mock a few words. Aling had several times allowed Lao Chen to advise her mother-in-law not to buy any of these useless things. She didn’t say anything about the money, but also pointed out that the father-in-law had nothing to eat. Lao Chen advised the mother several times, but she was accused of "forgotting her daughter-in-law" and "wanting her parents to go." She had to turn over to persuade his wife to buy with her mother.

The woman is noisy and contradictory, and Aling is also very aggrieved. She feels that she has to plan her spending on every piece of money, and her mother-in-law is good. It is unfair to spend a few thousand yuan each month to buy "health products." She complained to Lao Chen several times. Lao Chen always rests. Ling is angry, too often go shopping to buy new clothes, spend money like water. Lao Chen’s mother-in-law and husband-in-law spend money so often that it is not a way to persuade his wife not to be mad. A Ling said, her own money to buy clothes, is real things, always better than her mother was cheated to buy "high-tech products" strong. In addition, A Ling said that the elderly have enough financial ability, children do not need to give maintenance payments, Lao Chen's monthly allowances for her parents, in fact, "honored" to unscrupulous merchants.

Lao Chen told the experts that he actually agreed with his wife's point of view. The mother was cheated before she was eager to buy so-called health care products. However, the elderly were more stubborn. He felt that under the conditions of economic permission, he went with the elderly without having to cause it. Family conflicts. Lao Chen asked if his wife refused to give "filial piety fees" reasonable? How to deal with this family conflict?

Expert comment

Liu Weiying: The law stipulates that adult children have obligations to support their parents. At this stage, “support” mainly refers to the child’s economical provision of necessary daily necessities and expenses for parents. Therefore, in this case, Ailing said that “the old man has sufficient financial ability and the child does not need to pay maintenance” is not correct. Even if Lao Chen’s parents’ pension is sufficient, the sons and daughters must also take care of the elderly. This includes financial support. It can be understood that Aling is dissatisfied with the purchase of informal health products by her mother-in-law. However, strictly speaking, the old people spend their own pensions and filial piety fees for their children. This is the property of her name and is entirely at her disposal. Others have no right to interfere. . It is recommended that Lao Chen couples and their parents communicate well and convince the elderly not to be fooled by various examples, or to buy regular health products to go home and avoid the elderly to purchase them. Solving family conflicts should be based on mutual care rather than mutual arrogance.

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